we have 2 beautiful children, and we have a Domestic Disciplene Marriage.
For those of you that do not know what that is I will tell you
First and Foremost I am not an abused wife, door mat, slave
or anything like that I am a normal loving wife that that when I
do things I know I should not I get punished, and my husbands
method of punishment is a bare bottom spanking given mostly
with a belt..
Let me tell you all this all started
I met my husband right before my 21st birthday, I was working the front desk of a hotel he checked into for a business trip . We always say it was like love a first site, the minute he walked through he door our eyes met and we could not take the off each other, later that evening he called down to the front desk and asked me to join him for dinner, I was apprehensive at first, but he eased my concerns with his words and we did have dinner, he was such a gentleman.. the next day he had a meeting in one of the conference rooms and I knew that I walked past it to see if I could see him, which I did not but in my way back to the front desk he was coming towards me, he had done the same thing went looking for me, we had dinner again that night, he stayed at the hotel for 3 days we had dinner together all 3 nights, the 3rd night we had dinner in his room and again he was a gentle man we kissed and got a little touchy feelie, and he told me we would not be sleeping together unless we would be consummating our relationship, which we did, I figured after that night it was over he would be going back home and I would be here, well it did not work that way we did start a relationship for the first few months we alternated weekends, me going to his hometown or him coming to mine, eventually he asked me to move in, told me I did not have to work, he was in the position to take care of me, I jumped at it.
He was perfect, good looking, perfect gentlemen, wealthy, his own business, 3 bed room home, what more could a girl ask for right?? I was in heaven, his family accepted me, I had everything I had ever wanted. Then that day came when he asked me to marry him, I cried, I kissed him, I said YES. after a week or so after we were engaged he had this talk with me about dd, and told me how his parents live it and his brother and his wife do as well, he explained the concept to me, at first I was like you've got to be kidding people actually do that, etc... but again he assured me it would be fine, he said something like it is common sense with some additional rules, that we would be alright, but that he wants this type of marriage and was this something I would be willing to do,I thought about it and said yes, I figured a swat on the ass, or a few whacks here and there no biggie, I could handle that, well in the beginning that's how it was, until that day came a month or so before our wedding when we were at his sisters, they were talking about one of his friends, I put my negative two sense in sarcastically and got into a verbal debate with his sister, when we got home I got my first taste of his belt, OMG it hurt, really bad, I thought what did I get myself into. we talked after-wards and he said that was a punishment spanking and explained why I got and comforted me after-wards, I asked him them would it always be like that he said it depends on what you do wrong, sometimes it may be more or maybe less..
He was perfect, good looking, perfect gentlemen, wealthy, his own business, 3 bed room home, what more could a girl ask for right?? I was in heaven, his family accepted me, I had everything I had ever wanted. Then that day came when he asked me to marry him, I cried, I kissed him, I said YES. after a week or so after we were engaged he had this talk with me about dd, and told me how his parents live it and his brother and his wife do as well, he explained the concept to me, at first I was like you've got to be kidding people actually do that, etc... but again he assured me it would be fine, he said something like it is common sense with some additional rules, that we would be alright, but that he wants this type of marriage and was this something I would be willing to do,I thought about it and said yes, I figured a swat on the ass, or a few whacks here and there no biggie, I could handle that, well in the beginning that's how it was, until that day came a month or so before our wedding when we were at his sisters, they were talking about one of his friends, I put my negative two sense in sarcastically and got into a verbal debate with his sister, when we got home I got my first taste of his belt, OMG it hurt, really bad, I thought what did I get myself into. we talked after-wards and he said that was a punishment spanking and explained why I got and comforted me after-wards, I asked him them would it always be like that he said it depends on what you do wrong, sometimes it may be more or maybe less..
I was full of questions at that point, what if this and what if that, time went by I figured I can do this and I did try with all my heart, but I kept falling backwards, for ever step I made forwards, I wound up taking 3 back. One day I had a long talk with his mom she gave me some advice, I worked form that point to strive and be what he wanted in a wife, we had our ups and downs prior to getting married, and the day came when I became his wife, our wedding was perfect, or at least to me it was.
Things basically remained the same there was some additional rules, but nothing I couldn't handle, Some have referred to me as being spoiled or a trophy wife, maybe I am but he has given me, are things that I have earned and deserved. I am not perfect I have a sharp tongue which still needs curbing, but when I see things that are not right I will speak up, some for which I have been punished for, I have a temper, not that I am proud of it, but his friend who is also the VP of his company (investments and real estate) his wife has gotten me in trouble in the past, at the company Christmas party one year she cornered me in the bathroom and said some very nasty things another woman was in there and when she said something like I am nothing more than whore that my husband met in a hotel so I slapped her.. that earned me my first public punishment, after the other mad took his wife out of there, my husband locked the door and belted me right there in the ladies room, I was embarrassed to say the least, and was also ashamed for what I did and how I reacted.
Things basically remained the same there was some additional rules, but nothing I couldn't handle, Some have referred to me as being spoiled or a trophy wife, maybe I am but he has given me, are things that I have earned and deserved. I am not perfect I have a sharp tongue which still needs curbing, but when I see things that are not right I will speak up, some for which I have been punished for, I have a temper, not that I am proud of it, but his friend who is also the VP of his company (investments and real estate) his wife has gotten me in trouble in the past, at the company Christmas party one year she cornered me in the bathroom and said some very nasty things another woman was in there and when she said something like I am nothing more than whore that my husband met in a hotel so I slapped her.. that earned me my first public punishment, after the other mad took his wife out of there, my husband locked the door and belted me right there in the ladies room, I was embarrassed to say the least, and was also ashamed for what I did and how I reacted.
Since we have been married we have had our moments of good and bad mostly good, the negative side to our marriage is the influence his brother has on him on regards to dd, his brother in my eyes is abusive, his wife was so much fun, free spirited and happy, she is now like a programmed robot, A typical day in her life starts with laying out his clothes, his breakfast, giving him a bj, getting strapped, after he leaves for work she has an unreasonable amount of chores to do, and when he returns home dinner must on the table, after he walks through the house checking her chores and punishes her for what is not done to his expectations, she wears house dresses and has no life, he has literally beaten the life out of her. I thank god my husband is not like that..
When I was pregnant with our fist child, as bizarre as is sounds the doctor knows about our life in dd, which I think he lives that himself, he has given him direction to what is acceptable and what is not while I am pregnant.
When I was pregnant with our fist child, as bizarre as is sounds the doctor knows about our life in dd, which I think he lives that himself, he has given him direction to what is acceptable and what is not while I am pregnant.
Recently we have had some pretty bad moments but we do love each other and I believe in my heart we will be just fine.
I did ask my husband how they felt about being the HOH, he said for him it is not a control thing, he wants a wife that he can care for, lead and guide in the right direction, that will be there for him in every aspect, and to give him the respect and love he deserves, that he himself is not perfect and may make mistakes, but the end result will be a loving marriage, he will have a wife that he can love, take care of, to spoil, and unfortunately discipline when she does wrong, that his rules are not outrageous or that demanding that I will feel like some kind of slave.
All he asks of me is that I keep our home clean and have dinner on the table when he gets home from work, I do not have a list of daily chores, I have to let him know when I am going out shopping or something, I must always have my cell phone with me, I have no monetary allowances, I do have a good life with him, we just have our moments.
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